WHAT EXACTLY IS ‘COMPATIBILITY’ ALL ABOUT, BY PASTOR KINGSLEY OKONKWO

 

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“Two cannot walk together unless they be agreed”

-Amos 3:3

 

Once you have sorted out the issue of companionship, 

then you need to be sure you are compatible.

Compatibility does not necessarily mean that both of

you are similar and exactly the same, it simply means

that both of you can get along well, it means that you

are well-suited for or attuned to each other. It doesn’t

mean that we should be the same thing, that if I have

bow legs, she must also be bow-legged, that is not

what compatibility means.

Compatibility means that we can go together; that we

are well-matched. For instance your biro and the

biro-cover are compatible, when you are not using it,

it covers the main part of the biro-head, when you

want to use the ball point, then you would cover the

tail end of the pen with the biro cover and it would still

sit there perfectly while you write, that is

compatibility. It doesn’t, like I said earlier, necessarily

mean similarity, it simply means that both of you can

fit together. You might not be the same, for instance,

my wife likes cold food, I like hot food, it shouldn’t

cause a problem.

 

There are two things that make people quarrel in

marriage. First, it is when they, either or both are very

selfish people and are unwilling to adjust, because no

matter who you marry, no matter how compatible you

are, there will still be need for adjustment, but if both

of you are compatible the adjustment will be very

little, it won’t be stressful. Compatibility, like we have

established doesn’t mean that you won’t have to

adjust in some areas, but if both of you are not selfish

it will be easy for you to adjust.

 

The second reason why people quarrel excessively is

just total incompatibility that is when the two cannot

even get along at all, even concerning the smallest

things. They don’t ever see eye to eye on any issue;

totally incompatible. Ask yourself do we get along in

basic things? What are our simple basic values? How

do we treat people? How do we see life? Do we have

similar goals in life? Genesis 2:18 says;

“And the LORD God said, it is not good that the man

should be alone. I will make him an help meet”

That word is not one word it is two put together “help

meet”. What He was saying is I will make him a helper

that is suitable and adaptable . So it is not every one

that you can get along with. Compatibility is about

your ability to get along not necessarily your

similarity. For instance, if someone is quiet it doesn’t

mean he has to marry another quiet person; no he

might need to marry someone that can talk. They will

be more compatible because it means one party will

do more listening while the other will do more of the

talking. If both of you talk a lot who will listen? If both

of you are quiet who will talk?

It is not based on similarity but rather on our ability to

meaningfully get along or fit into each other’s lives.

Marry someone that you are compatible with. It’s not

everybody you can get along with; it is not even every

Christian that you can marry.

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