Thursday, 11 March 2021

WHAT EXACTLY IS ‘COMPATIBILITY’ ALL ABOUT, BY PASTOR KINGSLEY OKONKWO

 

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In fulfilment of our commitment to bringing you life-changing, critical-questions-answering book excerpts, we bring you……      “Two cannot walk together unless they be agreed”  -Amos 3:3     Once you have sorted out the issue of companionship,   then you need to be sure you are compatible.  Compatibility does not necessarily mean that both of  you are similar and exactly the same, it simply means  that both of you can get along well, it means that you  are well-suited for or attuned to each other. It doesn’t  mean that we should be the same thing, that if I have  bow legs, she must also be bow-legged, that is not  what compatibility means.  Compatibility means that we can go together; that we  are well-matched. For instance your biro and the  biro-cover are compatible, when you are not using it,  it covers the main part of the biro-head, when you  want to use the ball point, then you would cover the  tail end of the pen with the biro cover and it would still  sit there perfectly while you write, that is  compatibility. It doesn’t, like I said earlier, necessarily  mean similarity, it simply means that both of you can  fit together. You might not be the same, for instance,  my wife likes cold food, I like hot food, it shouldn’t  cause a problem.     There are two things that make people quarrel in  marriage. First, it is when they, either or both are very  selfish people and are unwilling to adjust, because no  matter who you marry, no matter how compatible you  are, there will still be need for adjustment, but if both  of you are compatible the adjustment will be very  little, it won’t be stressful. Compatibility, like we have  established doesn’t mean that you won’t have to  adjust in some areas, but if both of you are not selfish  it will be easy for you to adjust.     The second reason why people quarrel excessively is  just total incompatibility that is when the two cannot  even get along at all, even concerning the smallest  things. They don’t ever see eye to eye on any issue;  totally incompatible. Ask yourself do we get along in  basic things? What are our simple basic values? How  do we treat people? How do we see life? Do we have  similar goals in life? Genesis 2:18 says;  “And the LORD God said, it is not good that the man  should be alone. I will make him an help meet”  That word is not one word it is two put together “help  meet”. What He was saying is I will make him a helper  that is suitable and adaptable . So it is not every one  that you can get along with. Compatibility is about  your ability to get along not necessarily your  similarity. For instance, if someone is quiet it doesn’t  mean he has to marry another quiet person; no he  might need to marry someone that can talk. They will  be more compatible because it means one party will  do more listening while the other will do more of the  talking. If both of you talk a lot who will listen? If both  of you are quiet who will talk?  It is not based on similarity but rather on our ability to  meaningfully get along or fit into each other’s lives.  Marry someone that you are compatible with. It’s not  everybody you can get along with; it is not even every  Christian that you can marry.  This is culled from the book, ‘Who Should I Marry?’’ by Kingsley Okonkwo. Go grab your copies now, for yourself & loved ones. Get Over 50 free MP3 Messages by Pastors Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo with the DOWNLOAD NOW™ eCourses such as: Kingsley Okonkwo 1.0, School Of Marriage & Relationship 1.0, 2.0, & 101, 102, 103, 201, 202, 203 Mini eCourses. Some other books by Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo include: Who Should I Marry?, A-Z Of Marriage, When Am I Ready?, 25 Wrong Reasons People Enter Relationships, Just Us Girls, Should Ladies Propose?, I Love you But My Parents say No, God Told Me to Marry You, Waiting For Isaac, 7 Qualities Wise Men Want, 7 Questions Wise Women Ask, Chayil - The Virtuous Woman, Chayil Prayer Journal, etc.     Recommended Downloads With The DOWNLOAD NOW™  1.     Why Am Still Single, by Kingsley Okonkwo  2.    Who Should I Marry?, by Kingsley Okonkwo  3.    Marriage Miracles, by Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo  4.    Straight Talk {1, 2 & 3}, by Kingsley Okonkwo  5.    The Myth Of Singleness, by Dr. Myles Munroe  6.    Kingdom Keys To Successful Relationships, by Dr. Myles Munroe  7.    The 7-Star Single{1 & 2}, by Olumide Emmanuel  8.    So, You Want To Marry, by Keji Ajayi  9.    Common But Costly Mistakes Singles Make, by Keji Ajayi  10.  Faith, Family And Finance, by Ibukun Awosika  11.  The Ultimate Family - Building An Effective 21st Century Family, by Praise Fowowe  12.  Dealing With Financial Abuse In Relationships, by Nimi Akinkugbe  13.  Relationship Matters, by Dunamis Okunowo  14.  The 12 Tests Of Love{12 TRACKS}, by Tekena Ikoko  15.  Single, Or Married - Learn To Love, by Sam Adeyemi  16.  Responsible Men, by Olakunle Soriyan  17.  How Your Relationships Affect Your Business, by Nike Adedokun Folagbade {w/ Richard Okere} Singles' Meeting w/ Bisi ADEWALE, by Bisi Adewale     ATTEND MARRIAGE SCHOOL WITHOUT LEAVING YOUR BEDROOM WITH DOWNLOAD NOW™ e-COURSES SUCH AS:  SCHOOL OF MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIP 1.0,  SCHOOL OF MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIPS 2.0 &  SCHOOL OF SEX 1.0,                                               SEX EBOOKS 1.0, 101, 102, 103 eCOURSES

“Two cannot walk together unless they be agreed”

-Amos 3:3

 

Once you have sorted out the issue of companionship, 

then you need to be sure you are compatible.

Compatibility does not necessarily mean that both of

you are similar and exactly the same, it simply means

that both of you can get along well, it means that you

are well-suited for or attuned to each other. It doesn’t

mean that we should be the same thing, that if I have

bow legs, she must also be bow-legged, that is not

what compatibility means.

Compatibility means that we can go together; that we

are well-matched. For instance your biro and the

biro-cover are compatible, when you are not using it,

it covers the main part of the biro-head, when you

want to use the ball point, then you would cover the

tail end of the pen with the biro cover and it would still

sit there perfectly while you write, that is

compatibility. It doesn’t, like I said earlier, necessarily

mean similarity, it simply means that both of you can

fit together. You might not be the same, for instance,

my wife likes cold food, I like hot food, it shouldn’t

cause a problem.

 

There are two things that make people quarrel in

marriage. First, it is when they, either or both are very

selfish people and are unwilling to adjust, because no

matter who you marry, no matter how compatible you

are, there will still be need for adjustment, but if both

of you are compatible the adjustment will be very

little, it won’t be stressful. Compatibility, like we have

established doesn’t mean that you won’t have to

adjust in some areas, but if both of you are not selfish

it will be easy for you to adjust.

 

The second reason why people quarrel excessively is

just total incompatibility that is when the two cannot

even get along at all, even concerning the smallest

things. They don’t ever see eye to eye on any issue;

totally incompatible. Ask yourself do we get along in

basic things? What are our simple basic values? How

do we treat people? How do we see life? Do we have

similar goals in life? Genesis 2:18 says;

“And the LORD God said, it is not good that the man

should be alone. I will make him an help meet”

That word is not one word it is two put together “help

meet”. What He was saying is I will make him a helper

that is suitable and adaptable . So it is not every one

that you can get along with. Compatibility is about

your ability to get along not necessarily your

similarity. For instance, if someone is quiet it doesn’t

mean he has to marry another quiet person; no he

might need to marry someone that can talk. They will

be more compatible because it means one party will

do more listening while the other will do more of the

talking. If both of you talk a lot who will listen? If both

of you are quiet who will talk?

It is not based on similarity but rather on our ability to

meaningfully get along or fit into each other’s lives.

Marry someone that you are compatible with. It’s not

everybody you can get along with; it is not even every

Christian that you can marry.

This is culled from the book, ‘Who Should I Marry?’’ by Kingsley Okonkwo. Go grab your copies now, for yourself & loved ones. Get Over 50 free MP3 Messages by Pastors Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo with the DOWNLOAD NOW™ eCourses such as: Kingsley Okonkwo 1.0, School Of Marriage & Relationship 1.0, 2.0, & 101, 102, 103, 201, 202, 203 Mini eCourses. Some other books by Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo include: Who Should I Marry?, A-Z Of Marriage, When Am I Ready?, 25 Wrong Reasons People Enter Relationships, Just Us Girls, Should Ladies Propose?, I Love you But My Parents say No, God Told Me to Marry You, Waiting For Isaac, 7 Qualities Wise Men Want, 7 Questions Wise Women Ask, Chayil - The Virtuous Woman, Chayil Prayer Journal, etc.

 

Recommended Downloads With The DOWNLOAD NOW™

1.     Why Am Still Single, by Kingsley Okonkwo

2.    Who Should I Marry?, by Kingsley Okonkwo

3.    Marriage Miracles, by Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo

4.    Straight Talk {1, 2 & 3}, by Kingsley Okonkwo

5.    The Myth Of Singleness, by Dr. Myles Munroe

6.    Kingdom Keys To Successful Relationships, by Dr. Myles Munroe

7.    The 7-Star Single{1 & 2}, by Olumide Emmanuel

8.    So, You Want To Marry, by Keji Ajayi

9.    Common But Costly Mistakes Singles Make, by Keji Ajayi

10.  Faith, Family And Finance, by Ibukun Awosika

11.  The Ultimate Family - Building An Effective 21st Century Family, by Praise Fowowe

12.  Dealing With Financial Abuse In Relationships, by Nimi Akinkugbe

13.  Relationship Matters, by Dunamis Okunowo

14.  The 12 Tests Of Love{12 TRACKS}, by Tekena Ikoko

15.  Single, Or Married - Learn To Love, by Sam Adeyemi

16.  Responsible Men, by Olakunle Soriyan

17.  How Your Relationships Affect Your Business, by Nike Adedokun Folagbade {w/ Richard Okere}

Singles' Meeting w/ Bisi ADEWALE, by Bisi Adewale

 

ATTEND MARRIAGE SCHOOL WITHOUT LEAVING YOUR BEDROOM WITH DOWNLOAD NOW™ e-COURSES SUCH AS:

SCHOOL OF MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIP 1.0,

SCHOOL OF MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIPS 2.0 &

SCHOOL OF SEX 1.0,

                                              SEX EBOOKS 1.0, 101, 102, 103 eCOURSES

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