SIR, IS DATING BEFORE MARRIAGE AMONG CHRISTIANS GODLY?

*PASTOR BANKIE: ANSWERS TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP & MARRIAGE QESTIONS (2)

 Question: Sir, is dating before marriage among

Christians godly?

Answer: First, let us get our definitions aligned. What do we mean when we

say dating? The Bible does not use that word so we just have to

see what is meant contemporarily.

If by dating we mean just to go out with someone, eat, watch

a movie and just get acquainted, I think it sounds harmless enough

and it is not forbidden for Christians. Of course we understand that

you are not likely to propose marriage to a person who you have

given no signals ahead of time; so unless this so-called dating is

for the direct purpose of working up to the point of marriage proposals

I do not think it has a useful purpose. If it is the idea of pairing

off in a Pentecostal form of girlfriend-boyfriend romantic relationships,

whether it involves sex or not, it is not appropriate. It is a needless

and deceptive way by which young Christian people get themselves

into unnecessary romantic entanglements.

Everything in life has a purpose. So what is the purpose of

those romantic relationships? It is not true that you need a long time

to know someone who you want to marry. Even if you need the

time, you do not have to be in a private romantic relationship with

the person. You can know someone very well without being emotionally

involved. By the time romantic emotions set in, you should have

marriage proposals ready or close at hand.

When these things are used carelessly they lead to unnecessary

temptations and falling into sexual sins. Paul said 'flee temptations.'

Avoid all things that fire up your hormones and lead you into

temptation.

Just for emphasis, Christian relationships before marriage must

be non-sexual. The idea of fornication is not a 'holiness movement'

thing. These days we preach more faith and prosperity and so we

forget to remind ourselves about the basics of Christianity. Sex before

marriage is against the will of God, even if you are engaged to the

person. Engagement and marriage are two totally different things.

 ***This is culled from the book," SHOULD I SAY 'YES'? ", by Pastor Bankie. DOWNLOAD FREE HERE for yourself and your buddies……including the recommended downloads. And,feel free to share. Selah… #GoAndLearn #qdGUYS #qdLADIES #qdDOWNLOADS

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He That Believes

Grace to Prosper

How to Work for God

So, Who Will Pay for This?

Secrets of Increase and Breakthrough

The Righteousness of God

Prophesy!

Your Greatness Has Been Prepared

What is God's Will Here?

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SIR, IS DATING BEFORE MARRIAGE AMONG CHRISTIANS GODLY?

SIR, MY PARENTS WANT ME TO MARRY A MAN I DO NOT LIKE. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

*PASTOR BANKIE: ANSWERS TO YOUR QESTIONS ON LOVE, DATING, MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIP (1)

Question: Sir, my parents want me to marry a man I do not

like. What should I do?

Answer: Simple; refuse! If even God will not make you marry someone you

do not like, why do you think parents can? God brought Eve to

Adam, and Adam made a decision. Your parents can bring up a

suggestion; that is alright. They must however allow you decide if it

is okay with you. Please refer to the chapter (No. 16) on arranged

marriages in this book and get understanding.

 Question: Sir, what is a Christian to do when the parents

do not accept one's choice of a mate?

Answer: In this one you have to be careful. If the parents are believers who

know the word of God, then you must go and pray. Parents, when

they perform their roles properly, are actually a layer of protection in

the life of young people. That is something about authority figures

generally.

Now, sometimes the parents give their reasons, and those

reasons are totally against the word of God. For example, they may

object because the man or woman is from a 'wrong' ethnic group or

he is not rich yet. It is very common for parents to refuse a suitor

for their daughter because his father is a nobody. Some even go to

diviners and the oracle (or prophet) tells them it is not to be a

good marriage. This is idolatry which a Christian must never subscribe

to. When they start giving such ungodly reasons, they are pitching

themselves against the word of God in your life and you must take

a stand. Authority figures are not permitted to directly oppose the

written8 word of God (Acts 4:19).

* Please note that it is the written word of God that we are talking about, not the

'witness in your spirit' which can mean anything and which changes with the

weather.

When parents directly oppose God's word in their opposition,

then it is time to be the light. Explain to them in polite but clear

terms that the principles they are operating by are against the word

of God, and you have no choice but to be against them here.

One thing I must say here is that it is good that this is not

the first time they are discovering you respect the word of God. Many

people make the mistake of compromising with their parents on

everything else but then take a stand for the word of God now

because it supports their love life. If that is your case, you will smell

pepper before God defends His word in your life. These cases differ

widely from one another, so all I can give are some general guides.

It will take patience and prayer.

Please bear in mind that women, as a rule, are to be given

in marriage. Usually this is done by the father. As a woman, you

can't just flaunt that rule and be guiltless; so pray and wait until you

persuade your parents. Your pastor or friend cannot give you out in

marriage unless your natural father first disowns you, and this because

of your faith (not because of marriage). Many pastors have committed

this error and given Christianity a bad name and encouraged rebellion.

It is different for a man who has more liberty once he has

leaved his parents. Even in this, it is better to use patience and

prayers to win them over, even if they remain in a grumbling state,

rather than to just ignore them entirely. It is still your duty to be a

light to them in many more things that will come forth in life.

 ***This is culled from the book," SHOULD I SAY 'YES'? ", by Pastor Bankie. DOWNLOAD FREE HERE for yourself and your buddies……including the recommended downloads. And,feel free to share. Selah… #GoAndLearn #qdGUYS #qdLADIES #qdDOWNLOADS

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