[PART 3] WHAT IS SUBMISSION?, BY PASTOR BANKIE

I am a specialist doctor involved in training both medical students

and specialist doctors. I was trained under similar circumstances in

which I train other people today. In the training setting in medicine,

the chain of command is interesting just like in the military. In fact

every person calls the seniors 'chief.' I have noticed here the matter

of submission.

My resident doctors (those in training) look up to me for wisdom

and knowledge. They believe I am better in this job than they and

that I can impart knowledge to them. They do not just hold to their

own opinion but will subject it to my scrutiny. They call me to get

clarification when I am not present. For this reason it is easy to

teach them and there is hardly any argument between us.

Obey your spiritual leaders and submit to them [continually

recognizing their authority over you], for they are constantly keeping

watch over your souls and guarding your spiritual welfare, as men

who will have to render an account… Heb 13:17 AMP

It is easy to lead when there is an attitude of submission.

Even though my resident doctors are not at liberty to disagree

with me and disobey, I hardly ever have to use that authority of 'I

am the boss.' Even when some of them qualify and become specialists

in their own right, the attitude persists. There is a case for mutual

submission too in that I always pay keen attention if they seem to

not agree with a decision I am making on a case. There are times

when it is a case of because-I-said-so but those are rare and are

needed only when there is crisis and the subordinate is not quick in

getting the point. That was the kind of relationship I also had with

my chief when I was training.

My chief did not have to prove she was right before I agreed;

the spirit was that she was essentially always right even though as

a human being she could be wrong, but I was not in the position

to say she was wrong. There was just a submissive attitude. If I

thought she was wrong I told her as much and allowed her determine

if I was right in saying she was wrong. She still had to decide if

she was wrong. As much as I could have been right, I still had the

attitude that she had to decide that.

You are not submissive if your husband must prove his point to

you before you agree with him or obey him. Even a stranger who

proves his point to you should get obedience, so if you insist on

that with your husband, it is not submission.

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By Faith Acquire Life

He That Believes

Grace to Prosper

How to Work for God

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