[PART 1] WHAT IS SUBMISSION, BY PASTOR BANKIE

Life has a structure and marriage has an order. There

are offices in life and there are ranks of offices. Offices

and ranks were created for the sake of order, and they

have little to do with personal quality; rather they speak

of divine appointment.

Now I will dare to speak in the matter of headship and submission

in the home even though it is a very touchy subject for most women.

Touchy or not, the truth must still be taught, and that truth comes

from the word of God.

Life has a structure and marriage has an order. There are offices

in life and there are ranks of offices. Offices and ranks were created

for the sake of order, and they have little to do with personal quality;

rather they speak of divine appointment. I am a teacher of the word

not because I am a better Christian than other people, but because

I was created by God to be one. There are very good Christians

who are more mature than me and who are more spiritual than me

but who are called to be businessmen, and so they sit under a

teacher as their pastor. It is about the office each person occupies.

To fulfil my office I must be careful to prepare and be diligent, but

I was first a called teacher and that fact is what makes these acts

of preparation and diligence matter.

These rules also apply in the home.

Husband is an office. Wife is an office. The husband office is

higher in the command structure than the wife. It is not about personal

superiority because all are equal in Christ.

For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the

head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But

as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to

their husbands in everything. Eph 5:23-24

Men and women are equal before God, but equality does not

remove order in a home. The husband being the head is about order.

Bear in mind that the purpose of order is to create a channel of

divine blessing. Without order blessings cannot flow.

The duty of the husband as head is to lead, and not to shirk

his duties just because it is not fashionable or because his wife does

not like it. He is responsible for all decisions that are made in the

home even if he did not make them. There is a divinely granted

ability in him to lead. It does not mean he is wiser than his wife

inherently, but he has a spiritual force in him which makes him able

to give direction. Part of the duties of a wife is to recognize this by

faith and allow it to manifest. Most times, at the beginning of a

marriage, it is a matter of pure faith.

A wife must never ever do something that she knows that her

husband is in disagreement with, otherwise she is directly removing

herself from under the blessing that God has placed there for her

sake and she has started tapping into the curse of Eve. She should

be careful to run decisions by her husband and not nag him into

agreeing with her. Her faith is important in this matter; it empowers

him to tap into divine wisdom. I like the way my wife says it; “so,

my husband, what do you say?” That decision she made to behave

thus has saved her from a lot of trouble.

Marriage is not a democracy. In fact there is no democracy in

the things of God. God simply rules in the affairs of men through a

structure of authority. My wife has learnt that my words are not just

another opinion but that they are words of power from one with

authority. This authority is purely so that she may be blessed and

not so that I can have my way. With all glory to God I can say

boldly that I have never, to my recollection, made any decision

because it favours me or just because I like it so. I have endeavoured

to do things because it favours my wife and my family and because

I believe they are right. I have never sought my own good (I have

no desire for any good anyway that is not as good for my wife and

for my children). I am not saying I am always right, but when a

woman has a truly submissive spirit, the Lord will make her husband's

errors of judgment turn out in her favour.

***This is culled from the book," FUNDAMENTALS OF CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE ", by Pastor Bankie. DOWNLOAD FREE BOOK HERE for yourself and your buddies……including the recommended downloads. And,feel free to share. Selah… #GoAndLearn #qdGUYS #qdLADIES #qdDOWNLOADS

Other books by the author include:

The Blessing

Beyond Gifts And Talents

Here on Purpose

The Law of Life

Great Faith Can Be Yours

Choices, the Key to Destiny

By Faith Acquire Life

He That Believes

Grace to Prosper

How to Work for God

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