*PASTOR BANKIE: ANSWERS TO YOUR QESTIONS ON
LOVE, DATING, MARRIAGE & RELATIONSHIP (1)
like. What should I do?
do not like, why do you think parents can? God brought Eve
to
Adam, and Adam made a decision. Your parents can bring up a
suggestion; that is alright. They must however allow you
decide if it
is okay with you. Please refer to the chapter (No. 16) on
arranged
marriages in this book and get understanding.
do not accept one's
choice of a mate?
know the word of God, then you must go and pray. Parents,
when
they perform their roles properly, are actually a layer of
protection in
the life of young people. That is something about authority
figures
generally.
Now, sometimes the parents give their reasons, and those
reasons are totally against the word of God. For example,
they may
object because the man or woman is from a 'wrong' ethnic
group or
he is not rich yet. It is very common for parents to refuse
a suitor
for their daughter because his father is a nobody. Some
even go to
diviners and the oracle (or prophet) tells them it is not
to be a
good marriage. This is idolatry which a Christian must never
subscribe
to. When they start giving such ungodly reasons, they are
pitching
themselves against the word of God in your life and you
must take
a stand. Authority figures are not permitted to directly
oppose the
written8 word of God (Acts 4:19).
*
Please note that it is the written word of God that we are
talking about, not the
'witness
in your spirit' which can mean anything and which changes with the
weather.
When parents directly oppose God's word in their
opposition,
then it is time to be the light. Explain to them in polite
but clear
terms that the principles they are operating by are against
the word
of God, and you have no choice but to be against them here.
One thing I must say here is that it is good that this is
not
the first time they are discovering you respect the word of
God. Many
people make the mistake of compromising with their parents
on
everything else but then take a stand for the word of God
now
because it supports their love life. If that is your case,
you will smell
pepper before God defends His word in your life. These
cases differ
widely from one another, so all I can give are some general
guides.
It will take patience and prayer.
Please bear in mind that women, as a rule, are to be given
in marriage. Usually this is done by the father. As a
woman, you
can't just flaunt that rule and be guiltless; so pray and
wait until you
persuade your parents. Your pastor or friend cannot give
you out in
marriage unless your natural father first disowns you, and
this because
of your faith (not because of marriage). Many pastors have
committed
this error and given Christianity a bad name and encouraged
rebellion.
It is different for a man who has more liberty once he has
leaved his
parents. Even in this, it is better to use patience and
prayers to win them over, even if they remain in a
grumbling state,
rather than to just ignore them entirely. It is still your
duty to be a
light to them in many more things that will come forth in
life.
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