THE ART OF INTIMACY | AmInspired247.com

       Few people realize that the seeds of either success or failure in marriage are sown during the dating period. Habits, attitudes, and thought processes that characterize a person’s marriage. As a single, if you want to ensure success in your future marriage, the time to plan, and prepare for that success is now, while you are dating. That is why it is just as important to prepare yourself for dating as it is to prepare yourself for marriage.

The standards for successful dating are the same as those for successful marriage. According to the majority of the marriage counselors, one of the most common reasons for the breakup of marriages at any stage is lack of intimacy. Most people associate intimacy with physical or sexual relations, but it is much deeper than that. Those who feel that having sex brings them intimacy are only scratching the surface.

      INTIMACY IS NOT AN ACT. Intimacy is a state of existence in which both partners in a relationship trust the other more and more with their innermost wishes, dreams, and desires. They trust each other more and more with their innermost emotions. Intimacy, then, is the key to any successful relationship.

      Most modern relationships, marriage or otherwise, fall far short of attaining genuine intimacy. One reason for this is because, in our distorted age of romanticism, manipulation, microwave speed, and 30-second sound bites, we expect instant intimacy. This is a false expectation and can be fatal to a relationship. TRUE INTIMACY TAKES TIME TO DEVELOP. Many people try to take a short cut to intimacy through physical relations, which always leads to failure. The first step to true intimacy in a relationship is developing a oneness of spirit.

    RELATIONSHIP DOES NOT QUARANTEE FELLOWSHIP. Living together does not guarantee togetherness. If two people are close together in physical proximity but miles apart in spirit, there is no intimacy. They may be in the same room but in completely different worlds.

“”” THE FIRST STEP TO TRUE INTIMACY IN A RELATIONSHIP IS DEVELOPING A ONENESS OF SPIRIT”””

     Ultimately, preparing to date means understanding that the chief purpose of serious dating is to DEVELOP TRUE INTIMACY – a oneness of spirit- between a man and a woman. Once achieved, this spiritual relationship becomes the basis for a third and fourth-level friendship, which then becomes the basis for engagement and marriage.

      I always say to people,” DON’T MARRY YOUR LOVER, MARRY YOUR FRIEND,” because PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL LOVE ARE 100 PERCENT CHEMICAL. If you marry your lover,you are basing your marriage on chemical reactions, which change like the weather. When you date, focus on the spiritual instead of the physical. USE YOUR DATING TIME NOT TO GROOM A LOVER BUT TO GROW A FRIEND.

      TRUE FRIENDSHIP – not casual acquaintance, but people who are joined together in heart and soul – IS THE FOUNDATION FOR ALL SUCCESSFUL LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIPS. The problem is that too many people neither understand what true friendship is, nor have any real clue how to make friends or how to be a friend. If you desire a friend rather than a lover, and to be a friend rather than to be a lover, then you are ready to date. The next step is to examine what friendship is all about, and learn how to get friends by being a friend.

#This is culled from the book, Waiting and Dating: A Sensible Guide to a Fulfilling Love Relationship by Dr. MYLES MUNROE  (….grab your copy at this link,or at the nearest bookstore,and learn)

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